Before I start this post I have to say that there are MANY doctor’s out there that have the very best interest of their patients in mind with everything they do and I am NOT meaing to offend ANYONE with this post…. However, there are some doctor’s out there that are just not that great at the “bed side manner”. How many times have you heard that there is nothing wrong with your child even when you know in your heart that something is not right? I have heard this many times. I have been told that the blue spells that Jamie was experiencing was “normal”. Now, I don’t know if that sounds normal to you or not but a newborn turning the color blue and purple was not normal to me.
I really believe that they thought that I was a new mother and my child would cry or cough and turn red and I was over reacting. I have done CPR on adults many times on the rescue squad and I know the difference between red from crying and blue from not breathing.
My advice to ANY mother when dealing with a doctor is…..
Yes.. they have been to medical school. Yes… they have graduated medical school, been an intern and done their time as Residents. Yes… sure they can pronounce words that we can’t even figure out what letter they start with… BUT no matter WHAT they know and what you do or don’t know in their medical books….YOU KNOW YOUR CHILD BETTER THAN THEY DO! You are that child’s mother. You know your child better than anyone else does. Whether you carried that child in your stomach for 9 months or you adopted your child YOU ARE that child’t mother and you have that bond. You know what is “normal” behavior and what is not.
If you really feel like there is something wrong with your child and are told that there isn’t or that you are just over reacting. GET A SECOND OPINION! Sometimes you even have to get a third or fourth opinion. If in your heart you know something is wrong with your baby don’t give up until you find someone that will listen to you and really believe in you and your child. No doctor is God. They make mistakes, they are not perfect. When you find one that you can truly trust and treats your child like they would treat their own, you have found a great doc. One that will give their all to take care of your child they way you would.
Amy,
You are so right.Doctors are human and do make mistakes.They have so many patients nowadays you wonder how do they keep them straight.The right Doctor will take the time needed to listen and understand,if not get another Doctor.keep up the writting you have good advice.
It’s so hard to deal with a sick child, especially with other things going on. God bless you as you stuggle on day by day. I have a grandson who was the sole survivor of a car accident that killed his parents (my daughter and son-in-law) and his 3 1/2 yr old baby sister. He was in a coma for over a month, in the hospital and rehab for several months, and is now in the care of my youngest daughter and is walking, talking and in school! The night of the accident we were’nt even sur that he would live, and if he did, how it would go, with a skull fracture, two broken legs, crushed chest, fractured jaw, just so much. And the day he was born, he was 4 wks early, and had a brain bleed. But as our pastor and others have said, he must have a great destiny, because God by many miracles, brought him through and spared him. Keep praying–we do live in a time of miraculous cures and happenings, and Jaime has a part. One of the things that I am sure helped Ayron was the comfort and prayers of the hospital chaplain, many prayer chains and people from all over the country e-mailing and writing encouragement. And as you said, it’s not about trying to convert someone or them trying to convert you, it’s joining together in agreement that this little boy needs a miracle, and praying for it in our own ways. We will be praying for Jaime (My other half, Bill, is brother-in-law to Linda) Don’t give up–whatever happens, God is in it and is thinking of the best for us, even when we don’t see how it can be good. Someday we will see the good as well. Melody Bolton